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Courage is…

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Courage is…

Courage is… Stepping into the empty space that nobody else is wiling to fill. And filling it. With Ideas and Ideals. Tears. Hopes. Fears. Screams. Hugs. Dreams. Everything that scares us. Because they raise the risk that we might not be…. Accepted. Agreed with. Approved of. Supported. Liked. Wanted. Loved They raise the risk that we might find ourselves alone.  And alone is, I think, what scares us the most. Courage is looking Alone in the face.  And smiling.  Because alone isn’t so scary after all.  It’s just me.  It’s just us.  It’s where peace...

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Boys To Men

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Boys To Men

I’ll never forget that bright morning when the sonographer told me I was having a boy.  She moved her chilly, flat wand across my belly, showing me all of Luke’s emerging contours and creases, focusing in on that one piece of incontrovertible evidence – the marker of his masculinity.  “Yup, there it is,” she said, settling on his tiny penis. Christopher and I giggled on cue.  A boy!  I think we were meant to feel triumphant, like in the movies.  A boy! A boy? I walked around London for days in a daze. What would I do with a boy?  A grubby, boisterous boy.  What did I know of boys?  The men in my life – the loved and the lovers—all remained mysteries to me — their blunt simplicity endearing and maddening and cruel, often all at once. I kept walking, looking for comfort in the green, damp blooms...

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Walking Away – Saying No and Yes

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Walking Away – Saying No and Yes

That sound you hear is probably not your feet running. Very few of us get out of that job, relationship, or commitment in a dramatic rush.  Maybe all you hear are faint tip toes. A couple of unsteady steps forward. Or the determined, deliberate gait of one foot after the other. Two of the very hardest words to say are “No” and “Yes”.  No to that which no longer serves you. Yes to whatever risks you’re tempted to take in order to realize your calling. The thing is, you have to say No and Yes together, one after the other, doesn’t matter in which order. Because No without Yes can leave you in limbo. While Yes without No can quickly turn dreams into fantasies. If you want to walk towards something better, you’ve got to be prepared to walk away from that which doesn’t serve you. Obvious, right? But...

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There’s always music

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Music meant a lot to me growing up. Bedroom door shut. Eight track tape, cassette tape, record player blasting Donna Summer or The Eagles or Duran Duran. I can still picture the mixed tapes my friends and I made to suit our emotional season. (DANCE MIX 1982! TOP 10 SUMMER LOVE SONGS!) I can still feel my fingers placing the needle down on the album at the exact place where my favorite song started. And then doing it again. And again…. When my parents were shouting downstairs. When the popular girls at school laughed at my new haircut. When that boy didn’t even look my way. I always had my music. But music didn’t just offer escape; it gave me direct passage. To somewhere better, brighter, more loving, more lush. When my songs played, I moved my hips more. Mouthed words about making love that I pretended to understand....

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To protest or not to protest

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To protest or not to protest

Are you experiencing protest-envy? Does the sight of people with placards stir you? Or make you roll your eyes? Not again, not now, not my March, not any march. Me, I’m somewhere in the middle. I’ll admit I’m weary of the need for this spectacle and wary of its impact, but I’m also hopeful. I can’t but feel hopeful when people come together to speak out against perversions of power. That’s what a protest is, right, speaking out against the misuse and abuse of power? It’s about not keeping quiet. When it matters most. I’ve been quiet too often in my life. When it mattered. Quiet when I knew development money was being wasted. Quiet when I suspected my boyfriend was cheating. Quiet when strangers suffered. Quiet when my clients paid me less than they should. Quiet when I was scared. Quiet when I was angry. Fear and anger...

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Courageous Conversations Giveaway

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Courageous Conversations Giveaway

Think of it as spa day.  For your heart. Together we’ll look at the story of your life, and how you would like that story to end.  We’ll take a deep breath and list out the courageous conversations you’re going to need to have in order to realise that happy ending.  What talents you’ve ignored for too long.   What truths need to be told to move your relationships or career forward.  What risks you’ll take this year to get closer to pursuing your passions.  By the time we say goodbye you’ll have a road map for living courageously in 2017. Exfoliate.  Massage.  Buff.  Your life.  Until you have the one you want. Apply via my Facebook page here. TERMS & CONDITIONS: You need to be prepared to be in central Cape Town for a full day between February 1 and May 1. We’ll choose a date that works best...

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